Friday, December 6, 2019

Kids learning

It's so easy to forget that my kids are still learning and aren't fully formed adults with all the understanding and capabilities that comes with age.

It's so easy to assume that my oldest understands what needs to be done and why, and actually do it.

It's so easy to get frustrated and forget that neither of my kids can yet understand that others have feelings and wants and have a different experience than they do.

I look forward to them learning and growing and changing and becoming fully rounded people.

I just hope that I'll be able to help them enough, give them the right tools, and guide them to be able to handle their feelings and their wants and navigate their world like champions.


Thursday, December 5, 2019

Maturity



I'm constantly fighting to be mature, to be kind, to behave like a responsible adult.

I want to make a joke at work, and then I check myself and realize that's not very mature and I need to rein it in.

Being kind to others takes practice. It's very easy to be careless and unkind, but it takes actual thoughtful effort to be kind, especially if there is no reward for your kindness.

Adulting is hard. SO HARD!! It's so easy to not take care of things. But maturity, and responsibility, and goals make for easier adulting. So, baby steps :).

Sometimes I don't notice I fail at these things, and when I do notice, it's so easy to be hard on myself.

But I've realized that no one is going to give me a break, no one is going to pat me on the back and tell me I'm adulting really well, no one is going be proud of how much I've grown and learned and done. No one but myself.

So I've got to give myself a break, I've got to pat myself on the back when I've done things well, and I've got to be proud of myself for all the things I've learned and done.

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Friday, November 29, 2019

Happy 37

I just turned 37, and it's taken this long to become more confident and to start accepting myself.

I've started accepting how my husband is too, with all the things I don't like about him that drive me up the wall.

It's hard to get to this point.

But I'm finally back to myself, and all this anger and frustration and irritation can just fade away.

Update

Wow!

Well, so much has happened.

I don't think I actually remember all the things that have happened.

I'll tell you about yesterday though, it might be easier to start with.

But first, here's a bit of a recap:

I am an intern again at another farm. This time, a farm that does both animals and vegetables.

I've been here just over two weeks now and am loving it.

I'm living in a shared house with the 6 other farmers/interns and the farm owners live next door.

Well, yesterday I had a fantastic day!

After a couple of times of being shown how to milk, I finally did the morning milking myself. It's only 2 cows yes, so it's not very difficult, but I did the equipment setup, the bringing in the cows, the cleaning and milking, and then the equipment cleanup and

Difficult Conversations

It's hard to have a difficult conversation with someone who doesn't want to hear what you have to say.

It's hard to make someone understand you when they don't want to hear what you have to say.

It's even harder to have a difficult conversation with someone you care about and who doesn't want to hear what you have to say, because it hurts that much more.


Getting easier

It's just starting to get a bit easier.


Thursday, December 6, 2018

First period again

Today I got my period for the first time in over two years.

I cried.

I'll never have another child, and with every period I will be reminded that this was a possible child that I will never meet and kiss and raise and cherish and love.

As hard as it is right now to have two little children, I look at my little baby girl and her smile just melts me away. I see my boy running asking "mama, catch me" and my heart hurts from the amount of love I feel.

I've made two beautiful amazing beings.

That's right. My body grew these babies that are becoming children that will become people. They came out of my body and then I fed them from my body. It's incredible really when you stop and look at this miracle, this gift of motherhood.

And now I feel myself going through the cycles of hormones and ovulation and menstruation and I remember the pregnancy hormones, the nausea, the labour pains... Which I will never go though again...

I'm coming back to the person I used to be pre-babies, but now I've got kids and a husband and a body that's been through a lot. It's scary.

Now it's truly is up to me. The pregnancy fog is lifting and all that I want to be and do is my responsability.

It's a new chapter.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Raising kids

Raising kids is a lonely business. Just like pregnancy was, for me it all feels like I'm left alone to handle, figure out, and just do it. I thought parenting, even at this early stage would be shared between parents, where both take on responsability, try things when it's not working, take on the burden of dealing with a crying infant so the other can get a rest. Be partners and support each other.

Maybe my experience is thus because my partner is lacking and not pulling his weight.

It very much feels like I'm a single parent most of the time. It's a lonely time.

Saturday, June 2, 2018

New chapter

In a few hours I'm going to be induced with my second child. I'm experiencing a lot of different emotions. I'm not really nervous about the birth, my hips are made for this. I'm nervous for after the birth. How will we all adjust? How can I help the kids connect and grow close? Will we be able to manage? Will I?

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Another year gone

Now we have 2 dogs, still in the same apartment, I did have a job which I left a few weeks ago when I went on my 2nd maternity leave :), and now I'm just waiting for our little girl to be born.

Miles is 17 months old now and is a fantastic little person. Every day he does something new.

He walks, runs, babbles, says some words, is learning about the world and growing up just way too fast.