It's so easy to forget that my kids are still learning and aren't fully formed adults with all the understanding and capabilities that comes with age.
It's so easy to assume that my oldest understands what needs to be done and why, and actually do it.
It's so easy to get frustrated and forget that neither of my kids can yet understand that others have feelings and wants and have a different experience than they do.
I look forward to them learning and growing and changing and becoming fully rounded people.
I just hope that I'll be able to help them enough, give them the right tools, and guide them to be able to handle their feelings and their wants and navigate their world like champions.
Thursday, December 5, 2019
I'm constantly fighting to be mature, to be kind, to behave like a responsible adult.
I want to make a joke at work, and then I check myself and realize that's not very mature and I need to rein it in.
Being kind to others takes practice. It's very easy to be careless and unkind, but it takes actual thoughtful effort to be kind, especially if there is no reward for your kindness.
Adulting is hard. SO HARD!! It's so easy to not take care of things. But maturity, and responsibility, and goals make for easier adulting. So, baby steps :).
Sometimes I don't notice I fail at these things, and when I do notice, it's so easy to be hard on myself.
But I've realized that no one is going to give me a break, no one is going to pat me on the back and tell me I'm adulting really well, no one is going be proud of how much I've grown and learned and done. No one but myself.
So I've got to give myself a break, I've got to pat myself on the back when I've done things well, and I've got to be proud of myself for all the things I've learned and done.
at 9:14 AM