More of Abby

Abby and the covers, yet again, as cute as always :).

Snow day in Geojin

So, last night it started snowing really heavily. Deanna and me went out and built 2 snowmen and helped one of the shopkeepers clear the sidewalk of some snow.

Well, this morning my co-teacher called me and said not to come to school because there's too much snow on outside.

YAAAAAAY!! I love days off :).

I ran to the balcony and here's what I saw. Enjoy :D.

Where's Abby? again...

Well, again, I came home and I couldn't find Abby anywhere. Then I looked again and saw a bump under my blanket. Here are some pictures :).

What makes a good relationship?

I was sitting on the bus from Seoul to Geojin, and I started thinking about my parents, about myself, about how people relate, what makes a good relationship, whether between friends or lovers or boyfriend/girlfriend or husband and wife...

So far, there are 3 points that I find very important:

1.

Being Nonjudgmental

as in...

No one is perfect, and if a mistake is made in the relationship that affects both partners, then there should be no blame put on any one person. There has to be support, and not judgment like oh, you chose this and now we are in trouble because of that. The decisions have to be made together so that situations like that don't arise.

2.

Give advice that is in the best interest of the person receiving that advice.

Meaning, give advice that is meant for the other persons situation, character, personality, habits... all that. Not give advice that you'd think would work for you, because that might not work for the other person, and might actually be the wrong advice. So in order to do this, the two people have to really know each other.

3.

Accept each other they way they are, with their strengths and weaknesses.

Accepting is not necessarily liking, but it's accepting.

To accept means you love the other person the way they are, and with the things you don't like, you have to figure out a way to deal with them in a constructive way. Otherwise, if you just ignore them, they will become a much bigger problem down the road, and by then you won't even be able to tell what you don't like about a person. It'll just be a general feeling of dislike, maybe even hatred.

So, I think these are very important in order to have a good relationship. I don't think this is just for dealing with situations as they come up, but as a general approach to relating with a partner.

I always look at those old couples that are smiling at each other, and still love each other and are still happy together, there must be something there... I wonder how they do it.

Mailing address

Letters can be mailed here:

My home address:



강원 고성군 거진읍 자산리

동진아파트 C동 3003

219-904

South Korea



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School address:


강원도 고성군 거진읍

봉평리 31-1 거진중학교

219-904

South Korea

Awakening

I've been listening and watching this lecture by Joseph Campbell called Sukhavati (Part 1, Part 2) which means "Place of Bliss". Every time I listen to it, something else hits me. Another idea presents itself and another realization is made. It is so moving that sometimes I get all teary-eyed. It's making me see things in a different way, awaken something inside, be able to observe and see things clearly around me.

I see people differently, I see their actions differently, I see ideas differently, I see my place in all of this differently.

I always think back of this analogy that my dad told me about this pyramid that has different levels of awareness and consciousness. And the higher you go, less people are at that level.

It becomes a very lonely place when you break away from the norm and go on your own path.

I am understanding Ryan more and more, and am getting a little taste of what he's been experiencing.

It's wonderful, yet sad and depressing at the same time.

Taken

Hm... and where am I supposed to sit??

Find Abby

Hm... is she here?

Or here?


Oh, there she is :).

More Abby

Abby

Last weekend I went to Seoul and finally got a kitty. Her name is Abby, she's 4 years old, really fat, very affectionate and super cute. As soon as I went to the shelter and sat down, she came and sat in my lap. I knew that she was the one. I feel like she's watching over me, being all bossy and telling me to go to bed at a decent hour. She's finally more comfortable with the apartment and the noises around. She's not hiding under the sink counter anymore and she's not running away at every noise she hears. She's even playing with stringy cat toys. She's sleeping by my feet when I'm on the computer, she'll walk all over my papers when I'm doing school work, she'll come and snuggle up when I'm knitting.

Here's a picture of her.